Domestic violence does not discriminate—it affects individuals regardless of their gender, age, race, or social status. In our collective fight against domestic violence, we must embrace diversity and ensure that every voice is heard. Although, I have not been domestically abused personally, I have been indirectly affected by my loved ones and friends who have. It is something that is near and dear to my heart. No one deserves to be domestically abused.
Domestic violence encompasses a wide range of abusive behaviors that can occur within intimate relationships. It is important to note that domestic violence is not limited to physical abuse which is what most people think of when it comes to domestic violence. It can manifest in various forms, often leaving victims emotionally, psychologically, and financially harmed.
Let’s discuss the different forms of domestic violence.
Physical Abuse:
This form involves any intentional use of force causing injury or bodily harm. It includes actions such as hitting, slapping, punching, kicking, or any other physical harm inflicted on a partner. This one hurt, to witness a loved one being physically abused from a black eye, being choked to broken ribs. This a pain that I hope to NEVER witness again.
Emotional or Psychological Abuse:
Emotional abuse involves manipulating or controlling the emotions and mental well-being of a partner. This may be something like constant criticism, humiliation, intimidation, gaslighting, and other tactics aimed at undermining the victim’s self-esteem and sense of worth. To be called ignorant, fat, ugly, dumb or perhaps being told that no one else will want you is sickening.
Financial Abuse:
Financial abuse is a less visible, but very real and equally damaging form of domestic violence. It involves controlling a partner’s access to financial resources, limiting their ability to work or acquire assets, and using power to maintain control and dominance. I have witnessed this with a close friend where her spouse had full access and control of their finances; would give her an allowance of his choice. He would lie about when and how much he was getting paid. I also learned that financial stability was her reason for being so afraid to leave.
Sexual Abuse:
Sexual abuse within a domestic relationship involves any non-consensual sexual activity. This includes rape, unwanted sexual advances, coerced sexual acts, or any form of sexual exploitation that violates the consent of the victim.
Digital or Technological Abuse:
With the rise of technology, a new form of abuse has emerged. Digital abuse involves using technology to harass, stalk, or control a partner. This can include monitoring their online activities, sending threatening messages, or using social media to manipulate or degrade the victim.
It’s important to recognize that these forms of domestic violence are often interconnected, and victims may experience multiple types of abuse simultaneously. Domestic violence is a complex issue that requires a comprehensive and compassionate response, including support services or legal protection.
Breaking this silence is not just a call for awareness; it’s a plea for support and inclusivity.
“I remember being afraid and feeling helpless at times. I
wasn’t sure that if breaking the silence of knowing someone you
truly cared about was being domestically abused would help or
make things worse?”
Let’s talk about being supportive:
Support is the cornerstone of breaking the silence surrounding domestic violence. Creating a network of understanding, empathy, and resources is crucial in empowering survivors and loved ones to speak out. By fostering an environment where victims feel safe to share their stories, we can begin to dismantle the walls that protect abusers. Something that I have learned over the years through my training on domestic violence is the significance of support and creating a safe word. A safe word is a word created among two or more people which is a direct indicator that he or she is in trouble or needs help. This can also be a gesture for an example in a neighborhood you could tell your neighbors that if they see my light blink multiple times to call 911. This is something that you can get very creative with as long as you are getting your message or point across in which in this it’s to safety.
Breaking the silence means actively working to lift each other up, providing a strong foundation for those who have suffered in the silence for too long.
To break the silence effectively, we must also champion inclusiveness. Creating an inclusive dialogue involves dismantling stereotypes and acknowledging the unique challenges faced by individual may look different. We must continue to break barriers and create spaces that welcomes everyone, regardless of their background.
Education is a powerful tool in fostering a great sense of understanding the different dynamics and forms of domestic violence. I hope that after reading this blog, your awareness on domestic violence has increased.
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month
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