Everyone has times in their life when they just feel like giving up. Sometimes the thought of pushing forward and fighting through the certain situations seem nearly impossible, I’ve been here. Whether you’re facing some personal problem or an issue with your job; there are times when it just seems like it is easier to give up than continuing the difficult path ahead of you. There are all sorts of reasons we tell ourselves as to why we want to give up, but that doesn’t mean you have to listen to them. Instead, let’s talk about why you shouldn’t give up and push yourself to move forward with what you need to do, especially as a women.
1. Understand: Everyone Has Setbacks
You’re going to be treated unfairly or feel as though you were, you’re going to lose a job you love, your relationship might not work out. The key is to pick yourself back up and move forward. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t mourn or that you should pretend things are fine when they aren’t, but don’t get stuck there.
2. Exhale: Take a break
It’s easy to get caught in a cycle of negative self-talk, but it’s not necessary. Instead of letting one day ruin your progress and motivation, step back, take a break, and analyze your situation, then ask yourself “is it really that bad.” I’ve learned over the years, to remove myself from negativity. I have also learned that addressing my concerns and not keep things bottled inside; make me feel better. Sometimes even a call or chat with a friend can give you fresh perspective—and have you feeling more motivated than ever! My bestfriend is a life saver.
3. Approach: Look at obstacles as opportunities
A lot of people quit because they never learn how to look at obstacles as opportunities. As you move forward in life, there will be plenty of times when you’ll feel stuck and unable to figure out a way forward. Be okay with that—and don’t be afraid to try something new or think outside of the box. You might just find your solution there! You won’t know until you try.
4. Connect: Surround yourself with supportive people
If you surround yourself with people who want to see you succeed, you’ll feel motivated to keep pushing forward. Make a list of ten friends and family members who are always excited about your new ventures and challenges. You don’t need to tell them that their support helps—just remind yourself how lucky you are to have such positive cheerleaders in your life. Do you a mentor or role model? A mentor is someone that maybe you can relate or look up to, you can trust, who is honest, and wants the best for you.
5. Mindset: Don’t make excuses
When you feel defeated, one thing many of us do is to make excuses for our failures or for why we cannot achieve our goals. We might talk about how we’re too busy to workout, or how we don’t have enough money to start a business. While these things may be true or valid, they are typically are the reasons you’re holding yourself back. Whenever you start making excuses, stop and think about why you want something so badly in the first place. How bad do you want it?
6. Reset: Identify goals
Without goals, you have no direction. What are you working towards? Identify three short-term and three long-term goals that will make your life better in some way. Be honest with yourself—the more specific you can be, the easier it is to hold yourself accountable for achieving your goals. Write them down and post them somewhere you’ll see them daily (like your office, the refrigerator, or bathroom mirror). And remember: Make sure these are things that you want to achieve; don’t just set arbitrary goals for yourself.
7. Vision: See the value even in the little accomplishments
Often, when we are faced with a big challenge, we tend to only focus on how much further we have to go and how little progress we have made so far. This can be very discouraging especially if you feel like you’ve been working hard, but not really getting nowhere. Give yourself a pat on the back for your small achievements. Sometimes we are so impatient with ourselves, but why? None of my greatest achievements happened overnight.
8. Acceptance: Realize you will stumble and fall
Nothing is going to be perfect Sis. You are bound to make mistakes and missteps in life, but once you realize that you will make them in order to learn from them. Do not get discouraged when things do not go your way; remember that everything is a learning experience, even your failures. Each failure brings with it new knowledge, wisdom, or sometimes self-awareness that can help you prevent future mistakes.
9. Push: Keep going Sis!
Life’s hard. If you want to achieve big things, it will take a lot of hard work, patience and perseverance. Many women give up on their goals because they don’t know how to get over hurdles when they appear. The worst thing you can do is give up when things get or if you hit a wall while trying to reach your goals. Keep going!
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